The tipping point came for me at an unexpected moment. I went alone to an uplifting concert . Afterwards I longed to share my exhilaration and explore impressions. I need someone to help in anchoring these poignant moments that slip away if they arenít shared.
I am curious about what makes people tick and why we have come to the place where we are in life. Although curiosity keeps me bouncing along, it is the deeper bonds of friendship and connection that really matter to me. There is no time for vanilla pudding friendships.
My work is important and absorbing so I need help in keeping the balance. Sharing commitment and interests is important. Working hard makes switch off time more special. Friday evenings is a time to pour a glass of sauvignon blanc and drop shoulders.
Music is essential; when words irritate or fail then music soothes and transforms. Mostly classical but jazz as well. Other favourites link me to my past. Also, I like being introduced to something new.
What else do I like? Breakfast in the garden, celebrations, picnics, cooking, wine with providence, small hotels, walking. I always have at least three books on the go.
Living in London provides opportunities for opera, theatre, and exhibitions, all of which I thoroughly enjoy. Then thereís the relief of leaving all that behind. My walking boots are well-used and still have miles to go. They were last used in Tuscany.
My two daughters, although now independent, help me stay fully engaged with ideals and challenges. We are close but never clinging.
I know this patchwork quilt called life has dark bits. Iíve seen plenty of those. Dark times need to be shared too because that builds intimacy, respect and trust.
What else? Life is unloading the dishwasher and sorting the recycling and putting up with anotherís foibles. Itís a great balancing act and hugs are so important. They make a difference.
About her ideal match
By now you know that a sense of humour is essential to survival. Although you have strong points of view, you find it intriguing and not irritating that others donít have the same outlook; and add to that a good sprinkling of intellectual curiosity. You know the difference between the moments when Ďcheerfulí is motivating and when it is annoying. You will recognise that very ordinary days can be lifted by brief connections and flirtatious texts are fun not nonsense. Chemistry is important as well and it can be a slow burn rather than a shooting star. Vegetarians need not apply Ė appreciation of good food and wine is essential. In general, what I am looking for is an approach to life that is about abundance not scarcity.