I'm sorry if this profile doesn't sound terribly romantic. I am in fact an incurable romantic but have found that the practicalities of location, situation and timing are as important as romance if a relationship is to last. So, whilst of course we need chemistry, we should start by considering where we both live.
In principle I could move anywhere although I do love living in Falmouth. I have a second home in my native Leeds however and stay there as often as I have reason to. Ideally therefore you will be based in Cornwall but if you live in Yorkshire then give me a reason to be there! If you live somewhere else but think we may be suited then let's talk about it!
My situation is that I am now retired having risen to the top of a high profile career and so I find myself with lots of free time. I am never bored however and have reinvented myself four times, first as a consultant, then as a landlord, then as an artistic photographer and now as a self-directed music student! A typical day will find me notating, learning and practicing tunes to play on my piano accordion in concerts, dance bands and sessions. I also attend music workshops throughout the UK. If we could play music together it would be the icing on the cake, but if you are into photography, dancing (Modern Jive / Ceroc), walking or swimming we could share those activities instead.
Right, if the thought of being with an accordion player hasn't put you off, how about the thought of my camper van? Whilst I can do luxury hotels if required, waking up (with you of course) in my cozy van to the sound of the birds singing would usually be my preference, plus I love the freedom to roam that the van affords. If that lifestyle excites you then there are endless places in the UK and continental Europe we could explore together.
Finally then, timing. Paradoxically it seems we have first to feel complete and at peace in ourselves before we can be at our best in a relationship. I believe I have done the inner work to get to that place, but have you?
About his ideal match
I enter into a relationship in good faith and invest time and effort into building solid foundations and so I expect this commitment to be freely reciprocated. .
Your intelligent conversation and physical attraction are at the top of my wish list - in equal measure. Also someone who is considerate, nurturing and fun to be with, loves being a woman and, dare I say, is not overweight. I also need you to be someone who 'gets' me, including loving me pursuing the things I am passionate about whilst having absorbing interests of your own.
Having lived by myself for over ten years, a woman who could now offer me some semblance of a home life and, yes, look after me a little, (as I would look after you), would be especially welcome. In any event I think it is essential that we are in a position to spend lots of quality time together doing all the things that couples enjoy doing, or nothing at all, yet without us necessarily living in each other's pockets.
Finally, the topic of eating habits seems to crop up often. Whilst on my own it has suited me to eat out every night so it would be lovely to find someone for whom staying in and cooking a romantic meal for an appreciative man is not a big deal. (I may never be a candidate for 'Masterchef' but I promise to peel the potatoes, pour the wine, set the table, light the candles, be exceptional company, wash the dishes, run the bath then take you to bed!). It is better that you know however that I am the meat-eating son of a butcher so if you are vegetarian or you love the taste and smell of fish, Thai, Chinese or Indian food, then despite everything else being right between us we may still not be suited.
Ha, thought so, the food thing has now eliminated nearly everybody that was left after the accordion and camper van revelations, but that's ok because I am only looking to find one - THE ONE. So, if you have read this far and not been put off then you are a rare and special find and I would encourage you to please get in touch!