In Her Own Words
About her
I love to look after people & let them know what they mean to me. This extends to the cat who came to stay & gave birth!
As literature is my life, I read (Dickens is a favourite) & enjoy theatre, music concerts & galleries - all the usual flannel!
Cooking is fun, but after my late husband entered full-time nursing care (widowed 18 months) meals for one feel odd. He suffered the cruellest form of dementia: Lewy Body Disease.
I now volunteer my experience to advocate for people faced with crippling care fees. Under the NHS, free Continuing Health Care (CHC) is available to patients with complex needs.
Many have this legal right, yet families are rarely told of it.
I sing & play guitar (& uke) & one day hope to master my beautiful 1935 piano. This Spring, I passed the audition for my local Choral Society. Aside from classical, I have wide musical tastes including folk, Buddy Holly & Eddie Cochran.
Laughter truly is the best medicine & I’m very capable of laughing at myself (frequently). I adore vintage comedy, but Will Hay, Laurel & Hardy, George Formby & Norman Wisdom are my heroes.
I enjoy crime dramas & my favourite is that 'howdunnit': Columbo. Sewing is fun but only to fix & alter things. Face-masks are the only acceptable things I’ve ever made!
The people I admire respect others & are never afraid to call out bad behaviour. Any injustice is despicable, most especially racism, fascism & anti-semitism. I am easy-going, yet believe that politeness & consideration for others is extremely important.
Politically, I lean to the left and mourn Brexit.
As for my looks, the (unfiltered) photographs were taken between June & September 2023.
To quote my adorable Irish father (RIP) "Mary, you're an attractive enough girl, but you're no bloody oil painting!" Words to live & laugh by!
Walking long distances is a bother since shattering a femur in 2011. Slow now, but I remain positive. Dancing's out, but I can swim like a mermaid & am fine on horseback or pillion!
About her ideal match
I seek humour, affection, strength, curiosity, kindness, loyalty & devotion, a pretty tall order! Divorced or widowed, it must have been tough; you've exited a painful situation & in the second instance, death decided.
We'd work well if you were confident with power tools - but I’m pretty good with a chainsaw, have a full set of drain rods & am not afraid to use them! However, you really don’t need to be Action Man!
I love films of the 1930's & am particularly fond of film noir, adore actors from the golden age such as Bogie, Cagney, Edward G Robinson & Jimmy Stewart. Hopefully you’d share my rather ‘out-of-time’ tastes. Music from that golden era is also a love of mine, especially Al Bowlly - but The Ink Spots deserve special mention.
It goes without saying that you'll love music too. If you played an instrument that would be great - but not compulsory!
Honesty & good communication is all, but I have had some negative experiences on this site, so if you messaged me 24/7 & tracked my every waking moment it would not go down well. Equally, don't say you'll call & then 'ghost' me, for cowards aren't my scene & I'll never chase one!
Without wishing to be rude, good dental hygiene really matters to me. Even at choir, I have an uncanny knack of being seated near someone with halitosis! But hopefully you'd keep yourself in reasonable physical shape - & know how to dress for specific occasions without missing a beat.
Ultimately, if our relationship grew, intimacy would have its place, but we all need solitude.
Apologies to all those honest, normal gentlemen out there, no furtive flirts, no short arms & long pockets (aka unwilling to 'cough' for a full subscription) no ‘vintage’ photos, no Walter Mitty types, gas-lighters, grifters or pompous prigs need apply!
If you’re ill and I love you – then I'll stand by you - but otherwise my nursing days are behind me and I'd like to live again.
What Her Friends Say
Sally said...
Mary is a shy lady she is an extremely caring person and wears her heart on her sleeve, she has always been a true and faithful friend throughout the 50 years I have known her.She has a great sense of humour and is good company. Things have been tough in the last few years and she now deserves some nice companionship.
About her
Country of origin: |
United Kingdom | |
Location: |
Colchester, Essex, England | |
Gender: |
Female | |
Age: |
67 | |
Star sign: |
Pisces | |
Height: |
5' 8" (173cm) | |
Body type: |
Slim | |
Looks: |
Attractive | |
Hair colour: |
Red | |
Eye colour: |
Green | |
Relationship Status: |
Widowed | |
Looking for: |
A long-term relationship; Marriage | |
Have children: |
Yes, not living with me | |
Want children: |
No | |
Daily diet: |
Eat most things | |
Smoking: |
Never | |
Drinking: |
Several times a week | |
Education: |
Postgraduate | |
Occupation: |
Retired | |
Income: |
Solvent | |
Ethnicity: |
White/Caucasian | |
Home language: |
English | |
Other languages: |
French | |
Religion: |
Christian / Catholic |
About her ideal match
Country of origin: |
Anywhere in Europe | ||
Location: |
Within 100 miles of postcode district CO2 (Colchester) | ||
Gender: |
Male | ||
Age range: |
54 - 74 | ||
Star sign: |
Any | ||
Height: |
5' 8" (172cm) - 6' 11" (210cm) or taller | ||
Body type: |
Slim; Athletic; A few extra pounds | ||
Looks: |
Very Attractive; Above Average; Average; Attractive | ||
Hair colour: |
Any | ||
Eye colour: |
Any | ||
Has a photo: |
Non-negotiable | ||
Relationship Status: |
Single; Divorced; Widowed | ||
Have children: |
No; Yes, not living with me | ||
Want children: |
No | ||
Daily diet: |
Eat most things | ||
Smoking: |
Never | ||
Drinking: |
Occasionally; Several times a week; Most days | ||
Education: |
Further education; University; Postgraduate | ||
Occupation: |
Arts / Music / Writing; Executive / Management; Financial services; Food / Catering; Labour / Construction; Legal; Medical / Dental / Veterinary; Political / Government; Retired; Self-employed; Teaching / Education / Training; Science / Engineering / Research; Transportation; Agriculture; Public sector; Advertising / PR; Media; Consultancy / Design; Home maker; HR / Recruitment; IT / Telecoms; Leisure / Tourism | ||
Income: |
Solvent; Enough; Comfortable | ||
Ethnicity: |
White/Caucasian | ||
Home language: |
English | ||
Other languages: |
Any | ||
Religion: |
Any |
- Not important at all
- Slightly important
- Moderately important
- Decidedly important
- Non-negotiable
More about her
Sense of humour: |
Light-hearted |
Intelligence: |
Intelligent |
Ruled by: |
The heart |
Party behaviour: |
An average mingler |
Personality traits: |
Cautious; Easygoing; Faithful; Funny; Generous; Happy; Intelligent; Loving; Loyal; Mild; Optimistic; Philosophical; Quiet; Realistic; Sensible; Stable; Thoughtful; Trustworthy |
Valued qualities: |
Charity; Chemistry; Compassion; Contentment; Devotion; Faithfulness; Forgiveness; Friendliness; Honesty; Hope; Humility; Humour; Kindness; Mercy; Moderation; Patience; Tolerance |
Fashion sense: |
Classic (My tastes echo long-established norms) |
Favourite clothing: |
A leather biker's jacket |
Favourite colour: |
Blue |
Hair style: |
Long |
Eyesight: |
I wear contacts |
Body art: |
I don't have any; Pierced ears |
Date activities: |
A movie; A music concert; A picnic in a park; Attending a sporting event; Dinner at a restaurant; Going to the theatre; Meeting for coffee; Meeting for drinks; Visiting a gallery; Going to a museum |
Music preferences: |
Blues; Broadway / Theatrical; Classical; Folk; Jazz; Opera |
Reading: |
I read books regularly; I read newspapers regularly |
Books: |
(Auto)biographies; Crime; Fiction; History; Self-help; Travel |
TV habits: |
I tend to watch cultural programmes |
TV programmes: |
Action / Adventure; Comedy / Sit-coms; Cooking / Baking; Documentaries; Dramas; Educational; Nature/Wildlife; News |
Movie frequency: |
Occasionally or irregularly |
Movie preferences: |
Black & White / Silent; Comedy; Mystery |
Interests: |
Cooking; Gardening; Internet; Music; Politics; Reading; Sewing; Singing; The arts; Writing poetry |
Sports: |
Birdwatching; Horse Riding; Swimming |
Cooking: |
I love it! |
Food: |
Chinese; Fine Dining; French; Gastro Pub; Indian; Italian; Pub Grub; Seafood; Thai |
Dietary Restrictions: |
I have none |
Pace of Life: |
Go with the flow |
Time at work: |
I'm retired |
Pastimes of choice: |
Socialising with friends |
Time online: |
I'm on for an hour or two a day |
Family size: |
I've got brothers |
Family contact: |
I see them when I can |
Relationship Type: |
I'm just plain single |
Animals: |
I love my pet(s) |
Pets (Have): |
Cat(s); Fish |
Pets (Like): |
Bird(s); Dog(s); Horse(s) |
Pets (Dislike): |
Exotic pet(s); Reptile(s) |
Turn-ons: |
Assertiveness; Flirting; Intelligence; Showing affection in public |
Turn-offs: |
Body piercing(s); Sarcasm; Skinny dipping |
Religious attendance: |
I'm non-practising |
Politics: |
Left of centre |
Feelings about using Encounters Dating: |
Hopeful; Curious; Optimistic; Excited |
Honesty: |
Extremely |
